I’ve received so many e-mails, messages, and texts from men asking about my take on the commercial that was put out by a company called Bonobos called Evolve the Definition. In the commercial, you’ll hear from men who aren’t masculine talk about why we should redefine what masculinity in an attempt to make them feel …
How a Man Markets Himself
It is so important that a man learns to market himself because most everything you do in life is based on a relationship with another human being. When you have a relationship with another person, you have to be able to market yourself effectively in order to produce desired outcomes for yourself and for the people …
How to Find a Hobby
Today, I want to talk with you about finding a hobby. Now, I know that when I say that, there are going to be a lot of men who think, “I don’t have the time. I don’t have the energy. I’ve got obligations, priorities, and responsibilities. I would love to be able to carve out …
The Path of Most Resistance
The path of most resistance. It’s a term you’re not likely to hear. The term we typically use is the path of least resistance. And, I understand why. It’s natural that we, as human beings, look for efficiencies, shortcuts, and the easiest path. There’s merit to the path of least resistance. We shouldn’t make things hard …
Fixing Your Marriage by Fixing Yourself
There are a lot of men who want to fix their marriages. While it sounds counterintuitive, the best way to fix your marriage is to fix yourself. Because, when you improve who you are as a man and how you’re showing up as a husband, you’re naturally going to produce a better marriage. Sure, a strong …
No Victims Here
So many men who love to play the “victim card.” They believe that everybody and everything is stacked against and out to get to them. In reality, we know that’s not true. That’s not to say that some negative situations won’t happen. Of course, they will. People will screw you and, frankly, there are evil …
The Systematic Softening of Society
Society is becoming softer. Society is becoming weaker. This idea of softness is perpetuated by much of society, the school system, media, and entertainment and Hollywood. We do ourselves a huge disservice when we overlook the importance of being strong, tough, gritty, resilient, and all the things that we would traditionally think of when we think …
How to Command Respect
I see so many men who don’t have any level of respect for themselves let alone being able to command any respect from others. I was noticing the other day as I was walking to the post office, that there were people who wouldn’t even look me in the eye. And, not only would they …
The Rise of the Peter Pans
Everyone has seen the movie or the play, Peter Pan. What we see is a boy who, for whatever reason, has decided that he never wants to grow up, that he wants to shirk his responsibility and stay in Neverland while he jokes, plays, and engages in practical jokes on the Hook. We realize this …
How we Stop School Shootings
Every time we turn around it seems like there’s yet another school shooting. And, from what I can see, we’re addressing this from a very surface-level perspective. This is not about gun control. This is not about gun regulation. In fact, I don’t even believe it’s fully a gun problem. I think it’s a symptom …
Bridging the Integrity Gap
There is a gap in most men’s lives and, in fact, I would argue in every man’s life. This gap represents what we know we should be doing versus the things that we’re actually doing. This is the integrity gap. The larger that gap is, the less fulfilled, the more unhappy, the more unpleasant, and …
Crafting the Perfect Morning Routine
Today, I want to talk about such an important topic and one which is easy to overlook simply because we’ve all heard about it so often. That said, I believe establishing a healthy morning routine is one of the most important things you can do during your day as it really establishes the benchmark, the …