One of the most common challenges I see men face is their inability to overcome being too nice. Don’t get me wrong, being nice is great but when it comes at the expense of your own well-being, it becomes a problem.
Today, I am joined by psychologist, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, to talk about the pitfalls of being too nice. We cover the “guilt bubble” and how to get out of it, the costs of being overly nice, learning to speak up and develop healthy boundaries, and how to stop being so nice.
“When we do something from this [unhealthy] place of obligation, we build a toxic sludge of resentment.” Tweet That— Dr. Aziz Gazipura
- What does it mean to be “nice”
- How being overly nice is self-sabotaging
- What the “guilt bubble” is and how to get out of it
- The costs of being too nice
- How to liberate yourself
- How to establish healthy boundaries
- Learning to speak up
- Why being selfish is not always a bad thing
- How to choose and communicate your rules
- Strategies for improving your ability to say “no”
- How to care about others without jeopardizing yourself
- How to increase your discomfort tolerance
- How to “own your shadows”
- How to develop more assertiveness
Dr. Aziz Gazipura
Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world’s leading experts on social confidence.
“You’re allowed to say “no.” It’s healthy. If there is no choice in your life, you will suffer greatly. You have to be able to choose to say ‘no.'” Tweet That— Dr. Aziz Gazipura
“We’re very vulnerable to even a hint of disapproval.” Tweet That— Dr. Aziz Gazipura
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“When we really understand that it’s okay to say ‘no’ and that we’re not doing something wrong, then we can actually say ‘no’ more lovingly and a lot more relaxed.” Tweet That— Dr. Aziz Gazipura
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“It is good to be able to put others first….sometimes.” Tweet That— Dr. Aziz Gazipura